Children of The Heart
<BODY><script> (function(i,s,o,g,r,a,m){i['GoogleAnalyticsObject']=r;i[r]=i[r]||function(){ (i[r].q=i[r].q||[]).push(arguments)},i[r].l=1*new Date();a=s.createElement(o), m=s.getElementsByTagName(o)[0];a.async=1;a.src=g;m.parentNode.insertBefore(a,m) })(window,document,'script','//www.google-analytics.com/analytics.js','ga'); ga('create', 'UA-47423994-1', 'fortunecity.ws'); ga('send', 'pageview'); </script> <center> <br> <div> <script language="javascript" type="text/javascript" src="http://ad.broadcaststation.net/ads/show_ad.php?width=728&height=90"></script> </div> </center> <EMBED SRC="../sound/Candle_In_The_Wind_(Diana_Version)_(Elton_John).html" AUTOSTART="true" LOOP="3" HIDDEN="TRUE"> <P><IMG SRC="../graphics/spacer.gif" WIDTH="25" HEIGHT="1"></P> <CENTER> <H1 ALIGN="CENTER"><FONT FACE="AvantGarde Md BT" SIZE="+1" POINT-SIZE="28">Children of The Heart</FONT></H1></CENTER> <H4 ALIGN="RIGHT"><FONT SIZE="-1">By Scott Paton and Vivien Frost-Rogers</FONT></H4> <BLOCKQUOTE><BLOCKQUOTE> <P>Anyone or anything with whom or which I have a relationship, will act out for me my sub-conscious thoughts.</P> <P>When I change my sub-conscious thoughts, the thing's, condition's or person's behavior changes.<BR> ACIM </P> <P>The one area of my life with the greatest potential for conflict is my relationship with my family, both the older and younger generations. I notice it all around me, in the supermarket, in the schools, in the parks, wherever parents are with their children. Many parents have spoken to me about their frustrations, anger, confusion and pessimism about their issues with their children. Temper tantrums, hysteria, disobedience, indifference, conflict, anger, all seem a part of the normal day's routine.</P> <P>How sad.</P> <P>Our beliefs are that this is the way it is and it will never change. We have tried everything. </P> <P>Or have we?</P> <P>What if instead of trying to change them, we work on ourselves? What if instead of trying to control them, we work to develop a relationship with them? What if instead of thinking of them as 'less than' and us as 'more than', we recognize the capacity they have to create beauty and wonder in not only their lives, but ours? What if instead of trying to change them, we accept them?</P> <P>What I have noticed as I take The 1st Step is that my children seem to be taking it along with me. As I grow, I allow them to grow, and our relationships changes for the better. What if it was just that simple?</P> <P>I asked my good friend, Vivien, to relate her experiences with her children showing up differently when she did. Here is her story:</P> <P>"Four years ago, my husband died of a massive heart attack at age 38. Leaving me a single mother of our two young sons, 4 and 7. Feeling very lost and alone I did everything I could to avoid the pain.</P> <P>"One year ago, I was invited to a workshop by my brother. Since, I discovered the dream that lives in my heart. I found the courage to accept a spiritual, passionate man in my life. I worked through deeply rooted issues that separated my mother and I. Recently I discovered these issues blocked my path to the relationship I wanted with my two sons.</P> <P>"It was a difficult journey of self-discovery for me. My tendency is to be self-punishing, unforgiving of myself. I felt my parenting skills were all flawed. Many times I despaired. The light at the end of the tunnel had to be another train. It wasn't. </P> <P>"The principles work. I chose to come from Love, not Fear. I chose to take action. I chose to use what I was taught. I worked on me: What do I want? Together my sons and I are learning to feel worthy. Together we are learning to cry, to laugh, to express anger, to feel our feelings, to be connected, to share. We are learning it is okay.</P> <P>"The result? Honesty. Caring. Peace. Love. Balance. Harmony. Trust. Excitement. Exploration. Joy."</P> <P>We are all Teachers and we are all students. The question is: What are we teaching?</P> <P><IMG SRC="../graphics/spacer.gif" WIDTH="25" HEIGHT="1"></P> <P><A HREF="../main.htm">Home</A></P> <P ALIGN="RIGHT"><FONT SIZE="-2">© Copyright 1998 Scott Paton All Rights Reserved.</FONT></P></BLOCKQUOTE></BLOCKQUOTE> </BODY>