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<BODY><script> (function(i,s,o,g,r,a,m){i['GoogleAnalyticsObject']=r;i[r]=i[r]||function(){ (i[r].q=i[r].q||[]).push(arguments)},i[r].l=1*new Date();a=s.createElement(o), m=s.getElementsByTagName(o)[0];a.async=1;a.src=g;m.parentNode.insertBefore(a,m) })(window,document,'script','//www.google-analytics.com/analytics.js','ga'); ga('create', 'UA-47423994-1', 'fortunecity.ws'); ga('send', 'pageview'); </script> <center> <br> <div> <script language="javascript" type="text/javascript" src="http://ad.broadcaststation.net/ads/show_ad.php?width=728&height=90"></script> </div> </center> <EMBED SRC="../sound/Chariots_of_Fire_v2.mid" HIDDEN="TRUE" AUTOSTART="true" LOOP="2"> <H1 ALIGN="CENTER"><FONT SIZE="+3" FACE="AvantGarde Md BT">Angry Heart </FONT></H1> <BLOCKQUOTE> <P>"I am hoping to find a long-term relationship with a man I can trust. I am tired of dishonest men" Personal Ad</P> <P>It is easy to be a Victim. Taking total responsibility is more difficult. It is easy to say she lied to me. She is untrustworthy. Not so easy to admit this person is reflecting my lies and lack of trust in myself. But what if that is the truth?</P> <P>I recently spent a weekend with a group of people who wanted to work on relationships in their lives. I am committed to better relationships in my life. I actively look for ways to improve. Sometimes I experience quantum leaps. Sometimes just little baby steps.</P> <P>What stood out among these 20 people was how angry they were. I am. Not only were we angry, we refused to express it. We felt silly. We acted defiant. ("I am choosing to not act angry") In our culture, it is taboo to express anger. If you do not believe me go to your loved one's place of business when you are angry and start expressing it. See how far you get. It is a rare parent who will let their child express their anger in the local supermarket. </P> <P>We have not been allowed to express our anger. The result is we do not know how to express it in a safe way. Rape, physical violence, throwing things, control, manipulation, sarcasm, breaking stuff are not constructive ways of expressing anger. There are gentle, effective, safe ways to reveal strong feelings like anger. In the First Step, we go through a process of voicing our anger safely, then transforming it into something that will power the engine of our lives. Ever wondered why you were so tired? It takes a lot of energy to stuff anger. </P> <P>I am angry. Why? Because. As a Human Being, I naturally have within me Joy and Sadness, Love and Hate, Happiness and Anger. Do I need a reason to be Happy? Sad? Angry? It is all there waiting to be expressed responsibly. My anger has nothing to do with you. Using my anger to attack is not responsible. Since most people I know attack others when they are mad, which is socially unacceptable, they learn quickly to suppress it.</P> <P>The result of suppressing all this anger? Check your local hospital. Check your significant other. Why do you think s/he is gone (just like the last one)? Check your local pharmacy. Ask them how many drugs they have to deaden the feelings. </P> <P>Are you here to live life or to sleep through your life?</P> <P>Personally, I want to feel. Sometimes I do not like the feelings. Sometimes I do.</P> <P>Emotion. Motion. Move. Our emotions are the fuel that powers the engine of our lives. But we have been taught not to feel. So we feel vicariously through TV, drugs, sports, movies, video games and the list goes on. Movement and growth occur through the heart, not the head.</P> <P><IMG SRC="../graphics/spacer.gif" WIDTH="25" HEIGHT="1"></P> <P><A HREF="../main.htm">Home</A></P> <P ALIGN="RIGHT"><FONT SIZE="-2">©1998 Scott Paton All Rights Reserved</FONT></P></BLOCKQUOTE> </BODY>